Q: Emily, I feel disconnected from my friends, family, and my social life because I’m so busy all the time! How can I fix this?
Finding time to have a social life is something you really have to work hard at. You aren’t in high school anymore where you had an amazing, fun social life. You’re an adult now, meaning you have so many more responsibilities than when you were young. Recognize this and move forward.
Use my de-stressing tips from my last column, but this time make sure to bring your friends along with you! Take them hiking with you or invite them over to your place for movie nights on your day off from work or after school. Get together and form a study group with people from your class and make new friends! Use every chance you have to send a quick text to a friend and together for coffee! FaceTime or Skype friends who are far away.
It is very important to make an effort to be close to your friends. You need friends to keep you laughing and stress free. Say goodbye to those friends who cause drama and stress. They are toxic. Keep a small group of easygoing friends who are simply just a lot of fun to be around. This will ensure your happiness.
Keeping in touch with your family is something I cannot stress enough. Your family needs to hear from you and be kept in the loop! Now, this does not mean calling them once a month. Call your parents. Regularly. As in once a week or more.
They want to know how you are doing and how your life is changing. Plus, hearing reports of how things are back home are simply comforting. Just the sound of your parents voice will be a de-stressor. Remember, they are adjusting to your new life too. Keep them updated! Tell them you love them!
In this day and age with cell phones that are practically permanently attached to us, there really is no excuse to not find time to keep in touch with friends and your family. A quick text takes no more than a minute, so let someone know you are thinking of them and that you miss them.
Emily White is a Junior at Colorado Mesa University majoring in Mass Communication with a minor in Business.